My Confession To The Kava Kava Guy

As the title of my website indicates, I will be sharing “Confessions” about my healing journey, lived experience, trials and tribulations in the hopes it may help others.

I have found that when I have had the courage to be authentic and transparent, it opens up doors. It also allows others to not feel so alone and it certainly helps me feel less alone in the world.

I heal when I share my truth – My Confessions.

For those who may not know, I work in a health food store which I absolutely love! I learn so much every single day, especially from the customers who come in to ask about supplements, vitamins, and other health-related information.

Several weeks ago, I was working the closing shift and a young man came to me asking about Kava Kava. I happily walked him and the woman I thought to be his girlfriend over to the section where we keep all the vitamins and supplements for stress, sleep, and relaxation.

He began to ask me questions about kava kava but was being quite evasive which was hard for me to help since I was unsure exactly what he was searching for. 

I did explain to him the little bit that I know about kava kava and also the warnings that I do know about it too. As I began to talk to him he must have felt a trust about me and finally revealed that he was looking for something to help him relax but also if kava kava shows up on a drug test. He wanted to find something that can work the same (or close to) as marijuana without all the legal trouble since he does not have a medical card plus he is on probation.

Aha! This is something I am very familiar with (not personally in regards to probation, drug tests, etc.) since I volunteered at my local recovery center back when I lived in Pennsylvania. I am also quite familiar with this because I am a woman in long-term recovery from alcohol and pills and have very close family members who have battled with addiction. The most heart wrenching of all being my oldest child (now 26).

Recovery is a Life Long Journey
Recovery is a Beautiful Life Long Journey

As time goes on I will share more of my recovery journey (personally, as well as being the parent of an adult child addict) and how food, magick, and personal growth all played a part in healing my body, mind, and spirit. This is a life long journey and process and one that I am most proud of next to having my children.

When I candidly revealed this little bit of information to him his whole body began to relax, his eyes softened and I got that look of “Wow, you understand” (to me this truly is everyday magick).

The conversation then took a beautiful turn and I began to share with him information on daily stress tips and other herbs and teas that can help relax the body, mind, and spirit.

And finally, I explained to him that by honestly telling his probation officer what he is trying to do and show him what he is taking, he would have a better chance at gaining the trust of his PO. When all was said and done, he thanked me for the information but most importantly for listening and understanding.

Since starting my job at the health food store, I have found several important truths in regards to health.

  1. There are 3 main things people are suffering from – chronic pain, sleep deprivation and stress.
  2. People just want to he heard and validated.

By confessing to who I now refer to as “The Kava Kava Guy”, it gave him the permission to trust, to be proud of what he has already accomplished in his recovery journey and to know that he was listened to, heard and also validated.

And, by revealing a bit about myself, I was given the opportunity to share that yes, recovery happens and is certainly possible, as it has for me since 2003. One hand reaching out to another as explained in 12 Step Groups all over the world.

In closing, here are the 3 herbs I suggested to him to help with everyday stress and relaxation.

  • Lavender – It helps you relax. You may have heard that breathing in the smell of lavender makes you drowsy; turns out, it’s true. In folklore, pillows were filled with lavender flowers to help restless people fall asleep. Scientific evidence suggests that aromatherapy with lavender may slow the activity of the nervous system, improve sleep quality, promote relaxation, and lift mood in people suffering from sleep disorders. Lavender flowers have also been approved in Germany as a tea for insomnia, restlessness, and nervous stomach irritations.
Relax with Lavender
Relax with Lavender

“In one study, people who received massage with lavender felt less anxious and more positive than those who received massage alone. Several small studies suggest that lavender aromatherapy may help reduce agitation in people with dementia.” – University of Maryland Medical Center

  • Ashwagandha – In Ayurvedic healing, Ashwagandha is one of the most powerful herbs for a variety of conditions but most notably for its restorative benefits. The definition of Ashwagandha is “the smell of a horse” meaning “that the herb imparts the vigor and strength of a stallion, and has traditionally been prescribed to help people strengthen their immune system after an illness.” – The Chopra Center The way Ashwagandha works in regards to stress and helping the body relax is its adaptogenic properties. Being an adaptogenic herb, Ashwagandha helps the body cope with external stresses such as toxins in the environment and internal stresses such as anxiety and insomnia.
  • Holy Basil  Holy Basil, also known as Tulsi (which means “incomparable one”) is another adaptogenic herb revered in India as “The Queen of Herbs”. Holy Basil (also called “elixir of life”) has a vast array of benefits, some of which include, anxiety, adrenal fatigue,blood sugar and even acne. Tulsi nourishes a person’s growth to balanced health, both physical and spiritual. There are a few ways to take Holy Basil such as through supplementation. (Dosage Guidelines: For general preventive therapy, the dosage range recommended in review literature is 300 mg – 2,000 mg of holy basil extract for a single dose on a daily basis. For curative therapy, 600 – 1,800 mg daily in divided doses have been used. For diabetes, 2,500 mg dried leaf powder ingested daily, or one teaspoon of the dried herb brewed daily in 1 cup of water have been used (source: Gaia Herbs). Personally, my favorite way to include Holy Basil into my every day is a hot cup of healing Tulsi tea. This happens to be my absolute favorite brand (aff link – please read disclosure).

Here’s to Relaxation, Shared Truth & Peace of Mind!

Until Then Make Your Day Sparkle 






More about JennSeitzer

I am a Wild Woman, Gypsy Soul whose Spirit is Free. I follow the Witches Path and hold all of Life Sacred. I revel in herbal lore, the energy and power of crystals and walk among the Ancient Ones. I am Spiritual by nature but all of nature is my church. I have taken all that is good for my soul and nourish it, and have created a Spiritual Path that is designed especially for me, My Heart, My Mind, My Soul.

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